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Making Friends and the 'Church' deal

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I am not religious , by any stretch of the imagination ..... but I am starting see why so many immigrants end up in community churches when they move to a new country..... you leave behind everything , and everyone , and when you get here - you get a ready made batch of friends , complete with total 'Christian' acceptance and love. 

It also  doesn't hurt that they  also arrived from somewhere else and so know first hand the stress and hard work it takes to settle in.... 

The hardest part of leaving isn't the goodbyes, it's the empty days and nights when you have no-one to just pop around to for a quick cuppa after a hard day at work.

 It's the fact that all those years of meeting people and getting to know people , and weeding out the insincere ones , and sticking with your girlfriend through the bad boyfriends, and fighting with the good ones to make sure they treat her right , and picking up your brother after too much booze on the weekend , and crying with your family in the cemetery .... and then all the people that share that history with you - are 50 bazillion miles away suddenly ( OK, so not that far , but it might as well be ... ) . 

And one day out of the blue when you think you are fine , you do something , and pick the phone up to call Mom, and Mom is asleep across a 9 hour time difference, and it hurts. More than you thought it would. And that's when you wish you believed in a giant 'SkyPilot' so that you could go be friends with all the crazies and not feel so damned  alone. 

but it's just some days .....y'know ? 

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  1. Unknown26 November 2010 at 18:34

    Hi Stephanie. I read your letter on News24 and that (through a little research) bought me to this Blog. I'm looking for information about moving to OZ. I have been to the seminars, I have spoken to consultants, I have a degree, and I am currently 26 years old. I want to move to OZ but I am apprehensive about forking out all my savings to try and get a VISA only to be told that it's not a guarantee. I would appreciate any insight into how you and your husband conducted your move. Any tips on good, trustworthy immigration consultants will also be a must. I know it's getting tougher to get through OZ borders and I know it can take ages too. Thanks for your time, Russ.

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  2. Stephanie Gaddin26 November 2010 at 21:54

    Hi there - 100s dude - I'd be happy to share my lessons and experiences if it will help you in some way . drop me a mail at stephanie@dolphinworxs.com.au and I'll answer whatever questions you have ... :-)

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